But lately I've been reading a lot of mommy blogs and these moms are struggling with doing it all and being it all. I want to remind them, they don't have to be it all...they just have to do what they can.
Being Mom…mommy…mama…mother…ma
January 24, 2011 – 2:12 pm
It’s not easy…it’s hard. It’s full of second guessing. It makes you hold your breath, it makes you pray. There are days you just don’t want to do it anymore. There are days you want to sit in the bathroom and cry….maybe scream or sob. There are days you lose your temper and regret it later.
Being mom isn’t easy. We are told stories of sleepless nights the first year. We are warned of toddler tantrums and defiant teens. Nobody ever warns you of the elementary years. Nope, they never say “oh when he’s 7 he’s going to throw shoes at you.” They don’t warn you that when he’s 10 he’s going to get moody and depressed. Nobody ever warns you that when they are 8 they will whine and argue about chores. And nobody ever warns you of the one that never stops talking, ever.
They say to do your best, that is all you can do. What if you feel your best isn’t good enough? What if you are so overwhelmed doing your best isn’t going to happen that day?
It’s okay…..your kids love you, even when they stomp their foot and say “but I don’t want to, you can’t make me.” Your kids are going to love you even if the sink is full of dirty dishes and the hampers are over flowing. Even when your kids yell “i hate you, I wish I had another mom”, they love you.
I believe all moms have weeks, yes weeks, where we can’t do it. We don’t want to do it. The laundry gets neglected, the toilets get a ring, dinner is a buffet of whatever is easiest to throw together. We, as mothers, need to know this is okay and our kids are going to be okay.
We need to remember that our kids only want love and approval. They want to spend time with mom. This is what makes the bad weeks okay. It’s okay to sit on the couch and watch a Little Bear marathon and let the clothes in the dryer wrinkle. It’s okay to stay at the park until dark and eat cereal for dinner. It’s okay to let them play video games while you read a book and the dust bunnies multiply.
Kids don’t see all we see, they don’t care if their room looks like a bomb went off, they don’t care if their shirt has a wrinkle in it. They just want to know that you are there for them and that you love them. So it’s okay to let some things go to spend more time letting them be kids.
Being mom isn’t easy. We are told stories of sleepless nights the first year. We are warned of toddler tantrums and defiant teens. Nobody ever warns you of the elementary years. Nope, they never say “oh when he’s 7 he’s going to throw shoes at you.” They don’t warn you that when he’s 10 he’s going to get moody and depressed. Nobody ever warns you that when they are 8 they will whine and argue about chores. And nobody ever warns you of the one that never stops talking, ever.
They say to do your best, that is all you can do. What if you feel your best isn’t good enough? What if you are so overwhelmed doing your best isn’t going to happen that day?
It’s okay…..your kids love you, even when they stomp their foot and say “but I don’t want to, you can’t make me.” Your kids are going to love you even if the sink is full of dirty dishes and the hampers are over flowing. Even when your kids yell “i hate you, I wish I had another mom”, they love you.
I believe all moms have weeks, yes weeks, where we can’t do it. We don’t want to do it. The laundry gets neglected, the toilets get a ring, dinner is a buffet of whatever is easiest to throw together. We, as mothers, need to know this is okay and our kids are going to be okay.
We need to remember that our kids only want love and approval. They want to spend time with mom. This is what makes the bad weeks okay. It’s okay to sit on the couch and watch a Little Bear marathon and let the clothes in the dryer wrinkle. It’s okay to stay at the park until dark and eat cereal for dinner. It’s okay to let them play video games while you read a book and the dust bunnies multiply.
Kids don’t see all we see, they don’t care if their room looks like a bomb went off, they don’t care if their shirt has a wrinkle in it. They just want to know that you are there for them and that you love them. So it’s okay to let some things go to spend more time letting them be kids.
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